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The Social Impact of Friendships and Lies

Do you trust me?

Social media relies on the premise that we’ll believe what people tell us more readily than if we were told the same thing by a nameless, faceless company. That’s why brands go to great lengths to humanize themselves on the social Web.

But, a new study by Edelman (whose digital arm features social media and ebusiness genius David Armano) claims that bond is eroding.

A survey of 4,875 adults (500 U.S.) world-wide shows that just 25% of respondents said their friends and peers are credible sources of information about companies – a decline of 20% since a similar analysis in 2008.
Social Media  Consumers Trust Their Friends Less Advertising Age News The Social Impact of Friendships and Lies

AdAge tried to make hay out of these findings with the provocative headline: “In the Age of Friending, Consumers Trust Their Friends Less.

With Friends Like These, Who Needs Friends?

On the surface, it makes sense. The pervasive time crunch that blankets us all has forced us to curtail face-to-face relationships in exchange for digital interaction. And in most cases, we’re willing converts, with Facebook’s ease-of-use and Twitter’s immediacy replacing letter writing and meeting up for lunch. As a result, we have both more and fewer friends than ever.

The real shift is in how we define friendship. That’s the research study I’d like to see. There are dozens – maybe even hundreds – of people that I “know” via social media, and consider to be friends. Yet, in almost every case I have no idea if these people even have siblings.

So, given that we’ve cast a much wider net for our “friends” thanks to the social Web, is it any wonder that some of those new fish will be less than sushi grade? Furthermore, our newfound addiction to status updating gives each of our “friends” that many more opportunities to ratify or countermand our own choices and proclivities, building or eroding trustworthiness in real-time.

In the old days of three dimensional friendship, you might discover some unsavory elements of a friend after spending two or three afternoons or evenings together, in different situations, with various combinations of mutual acquaintances. Now, you can discover if someone’s a dolt in 140 characters or less. It’s like truth serum with a keyboard. I’ve now hit double digits on the number of people I have unfriended due to their apparent round-the-clock playing of pointless mafia, farming, or aquarium games on Facebook.

So sure we have less faith in our “friends” than we used to. But, unlike AdAge, I certainly don’t see that as a shortcoming of social media, because the same study showed (as pointed out by the always awesome Shiv Singh) that our trust in EVERYTHING has gone down.

Lying By the Seat of Our Pants

Reexamine the chart above. Trust in TV news? Down 20%+. Trust in radio news? Down 20%. Trust in newspapers? Down 20%. What’s interesting and depressing is that our trust in everything measured in this study has diminished by almost exactly the same rate. That’s not an indictment of social media and its relationship-building, it’s an indictment of veracity.

And really, is that a surprise either? In the last year, I’ve been lied to at various times by the President, Congress, my family, clients, Tiger Woods, Toyota, the Catholic Church, the local school board, and at least one Olson twin (but I can’t remember which). What this Edelman research demonstrates is that we’ve become a bunch of cynics, and who could blame us?

That’s why it’s more important than ever for companies (in social media or otherwise) to embrace the truth. It used to be that scandalous lies got talked about. Now, authenticity and acknowledgement of shortcomings is an incredibly effective marketing and communications approach (see Dominos, as I wrote about here).

In the land of the liars, the truth-teller is king.

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RE: @jaybaer I love this post Jay, but keep in mind what Edelman said just a year ago...ok, maybe two years ago. Peo http://disq.us/c984o

Jay,

"Whats interesting and depressing is that our trust in everything measured in this study has diminished by almost exactly the same rate"

I agree with your suggestion that we just trust everything less (even ourselves?) and so it's not that we trust our friends any less relative to other sources, just that our benchmark for trust has changed.

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Jay: Completely agree w/ your points on the study not indicating that information from friends and peers had become any less valuable.

In fact, I remember reading this ad age article when it came out in January and there were a few major flaws in Ad Age's description of the 2008 vs 2010 survey results:

1) The 2008 study polled global respondents on the question "How credible do you think the following are in providing information on a company". The 2010 survey polled only US respondents (who tend to be considerably more cynical).

2) Even if they were comparing two similar groups geographically, the numbers are still completely distorted - ironically, eroding the credibility of Ad Age as an information source - but the "25%" they highlight is derived by comparing a group of 25-35 yr olds in 2008 to a group of 35-64 year olds in 2010. When comparing the group of 25-35 year olds in 2008 to 2010 - the % change is only 16% - not 25%.

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" an indictment of veracity" What a thought provoking post. RT @jaybaer: The Social Impact of Friendships and Lies http://bit.ly/djP2kH

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Our level of trust is down, and social media is not helping the cause. http://bit.ly/liesandsocialmedia

Jay, you're absolutely right about people becoming ever more skeptical round the world. It's scary to think that you can't trust anybody or anything, especially governments. I think this situation is very damaging for society, for skepticism derives in total apathy and once this sets in, the bad guys can do their thing more freely.

People are becoming bigger septics. Check out how much the trust levels have declined over the past 2 years - http://bit.ly/dqRegM

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Intended for business, but worth a PERSONAL read for sure! The Social Impact of Friendships and Lies - http://bit.ly/bnHRTE (via @jaybaer)

First I don't trust the survey. Less that 5K participants, all college educated, high income, and getting news from 3 media sources a day. Secondly I don't trust the source. A company who sells it's self as someone you should hire to help you with trust.

I think this is hype. Are there trends to be looked at sure. Are all the distinctions people are making valid, who are "friends" excellent points made by many.

Surveys need to be duplicated to show a trend. All I saw at their site is a lot of marketing about their survey and how it impacts you and "OMG" hire us to help you keep from loosing everyone's trust.

I'm not drinking the juice yet.

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RE: @jaybaer I love this post Jay, but keep in mind what Edelman said just a year ago...ok, maybe two years ago. Peo… http://disq.us/c984o

I love this post Jay, but keep in mind what Edelman said just a year ago...ok, maybe two years ago. People actually trust employees.

You describe faceless organizations. On of the keys to success we are seeing is that companies stop being faceless and start freeing their humans they gain a ton of credibility. Edelman said that "employees are 5 times more credible than CEO bloggers"

And it makes sense right? Who better to help me buy a flat screen TV than the employee who sees 100 customers a week? Understands not only the products, but has seen enough customer scenarios to help guide the right match.

No matter what the company, you generally hire smart people who like their jobs, like the customers and want to add value to their relationships. Free Them!

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News has been replaced by propaganda, so we all crave authenticity. How many brands or people do you know who are truly authentic?

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Enjoyed this. Maybe trust inversely related to size of network? RT @jaybaer: The Social Impact of Friendships and Lies http://bit.ly/bnJ7rq

The Social Impact of Friendship and Lies http://bit.ly/bOrem0 "In the land of liars the truth-teller is king"

That's a good point. It's not that because of social media, trust has gone down. It's that sometime during the last few years, we've started to consider lying acceptable and that's been done at the cost of decreased trust.

I now trust a few of my friends more than ever, but I don't confuse my friends with my Facebook friends.

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Great stats for sure. Do you think that the lying plays more of a role than the recessed economy and the promise that it will get better and the economy will be strong again (as more and more people lose their jobs and houses). I think that when it really starts to hit home (yourself, friend and family) that people start to lose trust ans when we lose trust it runs the gamete. I would be curious to track this data and see what happens when times are good to see if there is a upward shift.

Thanks so much for posting these stats. I love stats!

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Maybe we should list things where the level of 'trust' hasn't fallen. Like, say gravity. It's safe to say that most folks have the same trust in gravity as they did a few years back. And why? Because, unlike newspapers or bloggers or 'friends,' gravity has no agenda of its own. It's a constant. It can be relied on 100% to do what gravity does. The other stuff? The intentions are surely pure, but because of mixed agendas, wires get crossed. Journalists fail to ask the tough questions, not because they're not trustworthy, but because they don't want to compromise access. And 'friends' (at least of the social media variety) offer their friendship conditionally.

Jay, your post points out the importance of drawing the distinction between 'trust' and 'truth.' Truth can exist without trust, but trust cannot exist without truth.

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I'd like to see a category added here, "Experts". I think many people look to trusted online resources for expertise.

Thanks to social media, friends are often exposed as being liars or at least untrustworthy. This is especially true when you know the person offline too and can see the gap between reality and what they post online. For "Online Experts" the illusion can stay in tact. At least for now, until the next survey comes out;-)

Jay,

"What’s interesting and depressing is that our trust in everything measured in this study has diminished by almost exactly the same rate"

I agree with your suggestion that we just trust everything less (even ourselves?) and so it's not that we trust our friends any less relative to other sources, just that our benchmark for trust has changed.

I heard about this yesterday I think... This just shows that what most people consider 'friends' these days (thanks to all the loose definition via social networks) is much greater and when they friend all these people they're getting hit with more spam and advertising... I think that's driving the trust down.
I still see no dip in word-of-mouth referrals for my services...

... update: now that I read the whole thing I notice you mentioned the same thing lol... good we see eye to eye... and mmm... sushi

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